In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically me. Because I alone chose it. I own everything about me My body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions.
Whether they be to others or to myself . I own my fantasies, My dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own all my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.
Because I own all of Me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know . But as long as I am Friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and for ways to find out more about me.
However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically Me - If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded.
I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.
I own me, and therefore I can engineer me - I am me and I am ok.
"You are as amazing as you let yourself be. Let me repeat that. You are as amazing as you let yourself be." ~ Elizabeth Alraune
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Written by: Virginia Satir
Shared by: Swiss Wenger
Email: swisswenger09@gmail.com
Every person is indeed different to others, but the question is, are we sure that the face we are showing to others are the real ones? think about it. This is just like any person that has an interview. We show ourselves to be very "KAGALANG GALANG" to the interviewer, but in reality, some of us are just impressing others, to be accepted by others, and to be pleasing to everyone. We are not as tough as we look, we are not as smart as we look, as long as there are some insecurities in our side, we will never be the true face of ourselves.
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I think the most important question is not how sure we are that we are showing our true selves to others, but why wear mask in the first place? I also understand the need for such a defense mechanism so as not to feel vulnerable and become an easy prey of getting hurt. Actually, there is no real need for such a defense because we only need to realize that we can only be hurt by others if we allow it, or give consent to such an awful act. You teach people around you how to treat you. And the trick is just be consistent and be predictable. You don't fall into prey of assuming and presuming that even your family knows exactly how to treat you. And how we treat and see others is always reflective of how we see ourselves from deep within. Hope this might shed more light to whatever it is you are going through right now.
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